In-Sight Counselling http://www.in-sightcounselling.com Feel the freedom, Soar to new heights Sun, 31 Aug 2008 12:39:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 en Reflection http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/05/reflection.html http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/05/reflection.html#comments Thu, 29 May 2008 21:01:43 +0000 Kim http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/05/29/reflection.html  
Life is always giving us opportunities to learn, grow and remember who we are. You can look at life as one big mirror; it is a reflection of your inner state of being. Your natural state of being is peace not stress. Life provides us with many people and situations to remember why we are here.  If you don’t like what you are experiencing, then you need to change your thoughts. This is what sets you free from anxiety, stress, depression, dis-ease, anger and frustration.
 
When you realize that it is not the other person or circumstance that is creating the feeling, then you are able to take responsibility for how you will handle them. The thoughts and feelings that are being generated from what seems like external events are really mirroring your inner state and are being brought forth for you to explore. They are neither right nor wrong, good or bad, but a chance to look at things differently, to be in the moment with what is occurring, rather than ready for battle and/or blame. Events are always occurring in our lives so that we awaken to the true reason they take place, for us to discover our true potential and remember who we are.
The little phrase “this too shall pass” has so much value and all you need to do is remember and believe it is so.   

When you can accept what seems to be a problem as an opening for awareness, personal growth and freedom then it won’t seem so difficult to handle. You will see challenges as ways to enhance your personal, professional and spiritual life.

One of the reasons people stay stuck or are not getting the results they want is because they are missing the key which is what you are holding not what someone or something else holds.
We blame other people or events in our lives and this gives us reason to remain caught in a cycle of being a victim to circumstance rather than a victor. It is like an animal trap; if you know where it is, are you going to walk into it? Of course you wouldn’t.  It is painful and you would be trapped.  Instead you would find another way. When you acknowledge that things happen and that you have a choice in how you will handle them, this is much more empowering than feeling trapped.
 
One of the greatest understandings that we can have is that we are not our feelings. They are being generated from our thoughts for us to see beyond the person or circumstance that we believe to be the cause of our misfortune, well being, happiness, love etc. Don’t worry, there will be lots of occasions for you to practice.
 
Instead of saying, “I feel” angry, sad, anxious, depressed etc. you could say “there is a feeling of” anger, sadness, anxiousness, depression etc. that I am experiencing.  In referring to feelings this way you start to reveal rather than conceal that they are really just energy. Our thoughts are what give the feeling power. When you go into the vibration that you are sensing rather than the words, then the so called feeling begins to dissipate. Sense the energy in your body, not as words in your head, and breathe into that area. From this space a true sense of peace is experienced and from inner peace (our natural state) then all things are possible.
 
When acceptance of what is being perceived as a feeling within us becomes conscious then forgiveness, new opportunities, abundance, creativity, purpose, well being and most importantly, connection with all of life can occur.
 
I would love to hear your In-Sights. Please leave a comment below.

 

]]> http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/05/reflection.html/feed Responsibility http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/04/responsibility.html http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/04/responsibility.html#comments Mon, 21 Apr 2008 15:38:59 +0000 Kim http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/04/21/responsibility.html  

"Blaming and complaining don’t change the circumstances in your life, you do".
Kimberley Cohen
 
 
Taking responsibility for your reactions to situations and people is the first step in changing the results in your life. At first this can be difficult, but there is a real sense of inner and outward freedom from doing so. You now are in the driver’s seat, not the passenger or back seat, giving directions.
 
When you blame and complain about situations or people in your life, you create stress. You feel they are responsible for your happiness, success, peace, love and well being.
When you recognize it is your thoughts and reactions that are creating the unhappiness and difficulties, then you are in a place of accountability, awareness, choice and personal freedom.
 
You can spend your entire life wondering “why” something has happened or “why” this isn’t working and the end results will be the same, stuck and stress. Or you can accept how you are feeling and choose to stop lamenting and ask yourself, “What am I going to do about this situation?” This results in creating a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
 
When you attribute someone or something else for the bad fortune in your life, then you don’t take ownership to make it better; you make it bitter instead.
Embracing each situation as an opportunity for you to take responsibility is liberating.  The possibilities in your personal, professional and/or spiritual life are endless.
 
So, the next time you find yourself blaming someone or something for the way things are in your life, ask yourself “how am I contributing to this?” You will begin to see it is your responses and reactions that are creating the stress and disharmony rather than peace and joy which is your natural state of being.
 
When you take responsibility for the outcomes in your life, anything is possible!

Try not to blame or complain for a week, than two until you get to 30 days.   It’s amazing how often we complain and aren’t even aware that we are doing it.

I would love to hear how you did.  Please email me or leave a comment.

Good Luck.

 

 

 
 
]]> http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/04/responsibility.html/feed Beauty http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/04/beauty.html http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/04/beauty.html#comments Tue, 08 Apr 2008 13:45:53 +0000 Kim http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/04/08/beauty.html  
“Be” is in the word be-auty.   When we allow ourselves to “be” one with this moment then we truly see the beauty that resides within ourselves and everything around us.
As I sit at my desk looking out into the subdivision, the houses fade into the background like white noise. As each snowflake gently dances down from the sky I sense the gentleness within.
The trees are swaying tenderly in the cool breeze as the birds float through the sky with what seems like a gentle breath beneath their wings.
When the identification with what I see dissolves, like the snowflake against the walkway, then I sit in the purity of the moment. No thoughts, no feelings, just being.
Sometimes in our busy and hectic lives we don’t even see beauty, let alone become aware of the aliveness within ourselves and nature.
Can you allow yourself, just for this moment, to feel the rhythm within and that which surrounds you?   Let go of words and thoughts, see if you can get a sense of the beauty of being.
 
The more you allow yourself to just be in the moment, you realize you are beauty and the surrounding beauty is you.
 
Ways to be in this moment:
 
·         Begin by noticing your breath, allow yourself to focus on your inhalation and exhalation.
·         Look at something in nature, a bird, the sky, a tree, a flower and as you look at it see if you can just be with nature without really thinking about it. Try to get a sense of the aliveness within yourself and what you are focusing on.  When a thought arises, just bring your attention back to your breath.
 
In that moment you are one with you and with nature.
 
Practice this for a few minutes a day. In time it becomes easier to look at something without really labelling it or thinking about it, you are able to “be” in beauty.
 
 
]]> http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/04/beauty.html/feed Release http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/03/release.html http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/03/release.html#comments Fri, 07 Mar 2008 17:42:23 +0000 Kim http://www.in-sightcounselling.com/2008/03/07/release.html  Rel –“ease”.  Notice the word ease is in the word release. 

Our natural state of being is not our thoughts, feelings or body but rather the breath and consciousness we entered life with.  When we become one with our breath then we become aware of inner space and the space of consciousness.

 

When we let go of our thoughts and feelings there is a sense of ease, stillness and freedom.  This doesn’t mean that you will no longer think or feel but rather will be in the space of thought and in the space of feeling. 

 

Just for today when you have a thought and or feeling that doesn’t seem to be at ease, allow it to be released through your breath.  Be aware of your breath as many times as possible throughout your day, this breaks the cycle of thought and realigns with your natural state of being.

 

Write the word “Breathe” on a post-it or a cue card and place it on your alarm clock so when you wake you start your day remembering to become conscious of your breath.  Place the word at your desk, on your dashboard, on the fridge, on the mirror, on the phone, T.V. etc. so you are reminded throughout the day to take a moment and notice your breathing. 

 

When you focus on your breath you will notice that stress, frustration, annoyance and anxiety are not in this space.  You will look forward to finding more time throughout the day to be aware of your breathing and releasing your thoughts and feelings rather than attaching to them. 

 

Breathe

 

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